DEALING WITH NEGATIVE/DESTRUCTIVE PEOPLES:
For purposes of this article, all references made to the terms “negative peoples” will mean: peoples who display “bad behaviors” toward total innocent strangers in public places filled with many other peoples. Other words for “bad behaviors”: abusive, angry, belligerent, crazy, cowardly, malicious, obnoxious, cruel, dangerous, and etc.” I prefer this definition of negative behavior: “Negative behavior can be defined as any action performed by a person or peoples which is NOT in line with the norms and expectation of peoples living in the society. It is an anti-social behavior that is NOT acceptable by society. This is because it brings bad name, poor image, and disrepute to the country.” (Quoted: Civic Education JSS3: Negative Behavior)
Ways to deal with people's displaying negative/abusive behavior to you(unprovoked) or others on Smeet and in this world:
“Sometimes the best reaction is NO REACTION AT ALL”. (Quoted: Power of Positivity).
Nearly every religion tells us that our beliefs determine our behaviors. ……one’s life is a reflection of how we think”. “Be careful how you think: your life is shaped by your thoughts”. (Proverbs 4:23)
When one becomes involved in a negative situation, such as being verbally attacked by a total stranger and unprovoked: one can simply “ignore” that vicious and malicious remark(s) made by the perpetrator or one can react. I believe that: simply ignoring that abusive troublemaker is not really the answer. Instead, one must learn to develop your own inner strength by ignoring the behavior while doing something POSITIVE for that person. For example: Prayers (pray for the abuser), smile, radiate positive energy around yourself at the very moment, etc.) Why is it very important that we do this in that precise moment and thereafter?
Negative behaviors by others upon another innocent person in a public place AFFECTS the world around you. That abuse verbal or physical attack upon an innocent stranger (unprovoked) creates a huge ripple effect to others in that same vicinity/room/area that the incident occurs. The perpetrator is thinking that he/she is being so smart by attacking innocent strangers and finds it very amusing and in some cases, will not stop attacking until help arrives or the victim must exit that area and find a much more pleasant and safer place to be in. This type of abusive behavior is definitely: Bullying at its finest and if it occurs online on an online game: it is Cyber Bullying at its best. Today, Bullying is illegal in most countries. In America, if one is found guilty in a court of law, the consequences/sentence is very severe. This is necessary to curtail bullying in real life in our schools, workplaces and now it has infiltrated online games as well. How sad it is, that bullies find it amusing to harass, inflict physical and verbal injury upon innocent others.
There is a famous saying: “Laughter is contagious” The same holds true for other emotions. Your bad behavior can affect not only you --- but other peoples in your life and all peoples around you, as well. It casts a negative feeling on those around you and then creates a very “hostile environment” at that moment for everyone around.
Negative behavior will affect your relationships with your partner/spouse and with all peoples all around you. It can also have an extremely negative effect on your partner’s well-being and those (innocent victims/bullied victims) you “lash out” on. It is a well-known fact that what normally happens to the quiet and innocent bullied victim: many will commit suicide to end their unbearable bullied life. This is how serious bullying and cyberbullying is.
If you feel like your “bad behaviors” are getting the best of you, becoming aware of this is the first step toward making a change”. (Quoted: The National Domestic Violence Hotline).
Always remember: Negative behaviors inflicted upon other innocent peoples will ALWAYS create DRAMA! There are many ways to prevent negative behaviors in the world and even on online games. I believe that there should always be correctional punishment to the perpetrators. There should also be: reinforcement and encouragement for individuals who exhibit positive behaviors and should be rewarded accordingly. Most importantly, if one notices an innocent person being bullied in the schools, workplaces and even on an online game: summon help for the innocent bullied victim. Do not just stand idly by watching the physical or verbal abuse inflicted upon the bullied victim, but instead act proactively and take the initiative to stop bullying in our schools, workplaces and on online games.
Hope all of this general information helps anyone who feels they either have displayed negative behaviors upon innocent strangers in the past or is aware that they thrive on displaying this type of negative behaviors on others. The desire to change will always have to come from within oneself. Miracles happen when we PRAY for these bullies/abusers. Pray for them and never stop praying and let God perform His miracles upon these bullies. Every human being has some good in them. As the saying goes: “Hurting people's hurt others” (Author unknown). Each one of us going through this journey of life will face trials, tribulations, good times and bad times, but how we conduct ourselves in the bad times will truly indicate the type of character/person that we really are. always Try to work on radiating positive energy . This requires a lot of practice and mostly a great desire to become a positive person no matter what we go through in life. For all things will pass and nothing remains the same. It is always how one thinks and the thoughts one dwells on will shape our lives, our surroundings and our future. Positive energy will attract positive things in your life and to your loved ones. So practice being positive the first thing when you wake up in the morning, show gratitude always, (always think of the blessings you have in your life and surroundings: and focus on these things) and never stop praying for everyone. Then, watch the miracles unfold upon your life and your loved ones and peoples all around you. Try it! After all, it is a free thing: practicing becoming more positive and praying.
So until the next time: keep on smiling, keep on dancing, keep on meeting peoples on Smeet at our daily events (click the calendar located on the bottom of your computer screen). But most of all: practice, practice, practice to have a more positive attitude/mindset and to pray every single day and even throughout the day. You do not need to close your eyes to pray. Count your blessings in your life and everything around you: this is gratitude. Be grateful for all the things you have, peoples in your life, your family and friends, etc. Then, stand back and watch a new life for you enfolding right before your very eyes.
If you see me around on Smeetland, and you have a question on any topic, please do not hesitate to message me in private and I will surely address your question/concern in my column. Always remember to love one another---- for Love conquers all and GOD is love. Happy Smeeting and God bless each and every one of you! <3
SAYURI, EN Smeet Journalist, ID#13520497